What is Your “Why”
I’ve treated thousands of fibromyalgia patients over the last 17 years. I’ve been fortunate, through hard work, study, brain storms, dogged determination, and sometimes answered prayers, to have helped thousands of fibro patients feel good again.
Unfortunately, I can’t help every patient that I consult with or who I come into contact through my books, articles, videos, seminars, or teleconferences. My success rate with those I personally work with, as you might imagine is of course much higher than that of other forms of interaction.
Fortunately 90 percent of those I personally consult with, who work with me in one of my get healthy programs, achieve an 80% improvement in all of their symptoms – pain (drastically reduced within 2 months), poor sleep (usually corrected in first month), fatigue, weight gain (patients usually lose down to their desired goal, losing half a pound a day and the weight stays off), IBS (gone in 2 weeks), RLS (gone in 4 weeks) …
In short they feel good again. They enjoy life, instead of struggling to get through each day.
Now I must admit the deck is stacked in my favor. I only accept patients, who I know I can help, who are willing to do what I ask them to do. And, I only accept patients who have a strong desire to get well.
It may surprise you but not everyone has a strong enough desire to get well.
If I ask someone “do you want to feel good again, do you want to be healthy, rid of your fibro symptoms,” of course they will say they want to feel good again. Who wouldn’t?
However an important lesson I’ve learned over the last 17 plus years being in practice treating difficult chronic fibro cases, many of the same patients who raise their hand and shout “yes I want to feel good again,” will never feel good again.
Sad, but definitely true.
Why won’t some patients ever feel good again you ask? Why, because they don’t have a strong enough “why” in their life.
Fibromyalgia is a beast, a terrible syndrome that slowly robs you of your sleep, energy, mental clarity, happiness, health, life, and vitality-it can and often does destroy your life.
In order to stop the downward spiral of poor health caused by fibro, you must have a strong desire to get healthy, to get well. You must have a strong “why” to beat this life draining illness.
A wimpy mediocre “why” will be swiftly beheaded at the first obstacle or challenge that presents itself– not enough time, discipline (I can’t give up sugar), money (I can’t afford consults-because the car needs new tires, kids need braces, Christmas is 3 months away, saving for vacation), a “it won’t work for me I’m too sick,” mentality, addictive bad habits that you won’t break, a doom and gloom mentality (can’t never did anything my wise mom used to say), or any convenient excuse that allows you to delay doing what you know you must do to finally get well.
Of course there are a number patients who have bought into the false belief that fibromyalgia can never be reversed, beaten, put into remission, this in spite of reading and listening to hundreds of my patients who have in fact beaten their fibro and now feel good again. Some folks are locked into a defeatist mentality so much so that there is no hope for them. Sad, but true.
If you have any doubt that fibromyalgia can be beaten (and many support groups are happy to tell you it can’t) then take a look or listen to what a brief sampling of my patients are saying about beating their fibro:
In order to beat fibromyalgia you need a strong, unique “why.”
Your Unique “Why”
Why do you want to be free of fibromyalgia? Why do you want to feel good again?
For some of my successful patients their “why” was their children – they wanted to be able to get down in the floor and play with their children, take them on vacations, spend weekends being active with their kids and not recovering all weekend in bed.
For others their “why” was to spend more time, doing more things with their grand kids.
For others, they simply wanted to contribute more to their spouse or family, they wanted to be able to take care of their home, balance the check book, or do other helpful activities that they were was easily capable of doing.
And for others, their “why” was to be able to work again – charity work, part time, full time work that they enjoyed.
“I want to cook again.” “I want to travel the world.” I want to be able to help my kids with their kids.” ‘’I don’t want to be a burden to my family.” “ I want to enjoy being active with my spouse, friends and family.” “I want to volunteer at a local charity.’ I want to play golf again.”
“I want to live, truly live life, feel good again, and enjoy my remaining years here on planet earth.”
There are many “whys,” and your “why” or “whys” are unique for you. The one common element to all successful “whys” is that they are strong enough to propel you towards reaching your health goals, no matter the challenge.
When your “why” is strong enough mere mortal obstacles are no challenge -you find away to over come these and move on towards reaching your goal.
Those with a strong “why” find a way to reach their health goals.
What is your “why.”
Why do you want to feel good again?”
Find your “why.” Take 10-15 minutes and write down everything you’d like to do but can’t because of your fibromyalgia.
Stop and take time to do this now – this is the first step for reversing your fibro and the first challenge you must overcome. Don’t make excuses, take 10-15 minutes and write down what you’d do if you didn’t have fibro.
Then review your list and find the most important things, the ones that would mean the most to you and make them your “why.”
Write these “whys” in a two to three sentence paragraph on an index card or piece of paper and put it where you will see it everyday. Think about what you need to do to goal of beating fibro come true-change your diet, break bad habits, set up a consult and get some advice, whatever it is – make a list, make a plan to get well. If it is a strong enough “why” excuses won’t derail you.
Wimpy “whys” will fail at the first challenge or excuse.
Your “why” should be so convincing that you’ll do whatever you need to do to achieve your goal of getting well. You’ll find away to make more time, work less, reduce your stress, have the money to invest in consults or supplements or doctor visits or whatever it takes.
If you find your “why” and want to speed up the time it takes to get well and stay well then I’m happy to help. I’ve helped thousands get healthy and feel good again.
Do you have a strong enough “why” that will ensure you beat fibro? If so don’t wait don’t let an obstacle side track you, let another month, months or years go by before you take a stand and finally once and for all, beat your fibro. Call today 205-879-2383 and let me make you another successful patient who has beaten their fibro.
tears in my eyes after reading this. i hate fibromyalgia and what it has taken from me.i see myself in your message…i DO want to be like i was before this monster….but i am not strong enough to do it. i give in to my bad habits, and the top of my list is SUGAR. i am addicted to sugar and always admit it.but i keep going for more.i tell myself…all i can enjoy is eating! i know you help people,and i do my supplements everyday. i’ll just ask for prayer to make better choices.it is a merry-go-round…eat wrong…hurt…feel bad,i feed the pain. over and over again! will i ever learn??!!! thank you Dr. Murphree for what you do…and most of all….truly caring about how people with this feel.
Alora breaking the sugar addiction can be tough. My friend and colleague Nancy Desjardins ROHP/RNCP
Holistic Nutrition Coach, Health Lady (http://healthlady.com) has some good resources for breaking the sugar addiction. I suggest checking her out online.
I have been receiving emails as well as literature from you in the mail. I understand your premise and maybe it works in some mild cases in which these patients haven’t been afflicted with other diagnosed conditions as many are.
I’ve been treated for fibro for 12 years as it progressively worsened. Many other conditions have been diagnosed since then and I don’t feel that it’s a coincidence. My list started with fibro then added CFS, Sleep Apnea, Lupus, Reatless Leg Snydrome, Degenerative Disc Disease, Spinal Stenosis, Arthritis, out of the blue surgeries for rotator cuff twice unsuccessful then fused neck, even surgery on toes. Then you add the normal add on diagnosis with fibro being Ulcerative Colititis, IBS and the topping is labeled Chronic Pain. So I don’t think your theory would heal this. There is a difference between a woman having mild fibro complaining she has some bad days and this sentence which took a 47 out of work permanently from a well paid career.
Point I’m making there might be validity in your work for minor cases without confusion of other conditions. However it’s almost insulting the way you claim I chose to live with this.
No doubt about it you have some tough health issues, ones that challenging for anyone to overcome. I wish my patients did only have “mild” fibro symptoms, would make things a lot easier. I’d caution using the term female and mild fibro case, as anyone with fibro no matter what degree will tell you it is not mild.
My fibro patients have all sorts of conditions including many you are challenged with and while I don’t have a “magic wand” and can’t help everyone using my orthomolecular medicine approach and there is a law of limitation-once you have surgery or other invasive procedures there is a limitation of what can be corrected through supplementation and life style changes, even with prescription meds this holds true. I have helped numerous patients with autoimmune as osteoarthritis and you can read more about these… https://yourfibrodoctor.com/testimonials-from-fibromyalgia-patients/ I wish you the best of luck and hope you can find some help for your health challenges.
WALK! I’d take long walks, strolls, go to flea markets, festivals, carnivals, fairs, museums, all the places that are so difficult for me now because standing and walking are so incredibly painful…
I, for one, do want to get well. Unfortunately, I cannot afford the program(s) you offer as I am on disability and have a hard time even paying rent. Having said that, I have read your book, do subscribe to your newsletter, and do as much research as I can to arm myself with as much knowledge as I can on Fibromyalgia. So, I do all that I can within my budget and I am feeling sooo much better. I have changex my diet (cut out potatoes & gluten, trying to cut out sugar and aspartame, eat more veggies and fruit and lean meat, et,c)and take as many supplements as I can (magnesium, omega 3s, astaxanthin, d-ribose, maca powder, 5 htp, Vit D3, etc.)….I also ride exercise bike and try to stay as active as I can. These changes have made a huge difference in my life! I also try accupressure and EFT. THANK YOU DR MURPHREE FOR ALL THE INFO YOU PUT OUT THERE!
I know fibro can be beaten. I have been sick for a year and have not done much, which leads to not being able to do more. I have many illnesses like everyone else. I’m going to start going to the pool and exersizing, using the hot tub and infared sauna. I know it will help me to feel much better. Now if I could just stop smoking. Having a hard time bcuz I can’t have fresh fruits/veggies/whole grain/coffee/chocolate. They’ve taken everything away????
I would love to have more energy and not have to take naps or come home early from being out in the evening because I am so tired. I cant walk the mall for more then an hour. I need my appetite to increase, as I have NO desire to eat. Cant stand in lines and need to hold on to something or lean on a counter.
Fibro is stealing my joy!
I have read your report and it seems like I fit into every thing your writing about, I’ve started getting Fibro about 10 years ago, But thought it was just my job catching up with me(I drove a semi for 30 yrs)After my husband died in 06 I continued to drive for 2yrs, After I stopped I started really to feel the effects ofmy fibo, I used to exercise 3 times a week and that was great, But after I had retenia detachment surgery I had to stop the exercise. To make a long story short, I can no longer do the things I did a year ago, I’m still trying to get up and go, But it’s getting so hard. I’d love to be able to go to the gym and walk on the track and do the things I did before this hit me hard. I’m not the kind of person to lay down and roll over(Can’t hardly roll over any more with out alot of pain. I’d be willing to do any thing if you think you can help me. Thanks for your time!
I found you on facebook and was excited to see I was not alone in this battle. I like the guy Matthew do have other issues but no surgery for me, dont like the knife. I would like to talk to you to see what was all involved in the process. My body has changed somehow and not sure how, Iam a cancer survivor and have a mole thats not quite right always fearful of it coming back. Lost my father and uncle to 2 kinds of cancer: each one had 2 different ones. I had it when I was in my early 20’s.
Very informative and interesting article.
You are obviously passionate and care deeply, but I do not see anywhere that you are testing for or even aware of the connection between fibromyalgia, IBS, CFS and the MTHFR mutations. If I have missed that in your information, my apologies. But if you are not making that connection then you are missing the cause of those disorders for many people including myself.
Yes, aware of this and will have some of this info in next edition. Thank you!
I received your pills yesterday, I started you program today, I have been sick for 32 years. I am really bad off. You described me in your books perfectly. I have it all. I am house bound most of the time. I will let you how I come along Thank you for everything. Barbara
Sounds like you’re just trying to get rich off of people’s misery. If I had a dollar for every time I heard about going on this diet (blah, blah, blah), I would be rich.
If I had a dollar for every skeptic I’d be rich….sorry but being attacked for sharing information isn’t fair. But I do understand because fibro takes it out of you and eventually after to seeing numerous doctors and taking numerous drugs, all that don’t help, it is easy to become a skeptic. However, just because have failed or there are less than honest folks peddling “cures” out there, you should be careful not to paint everyone with same brush or you’ll miss out on an opportunity that you dismiss. Here are some of the many patients who have in fact benefite form working with me and using my protocols https://yourfibrodoctor.com/testimonials-from-fibromyalgia-patients/
After reading in your book I started 5htp wanting to know how long is it safe to take for sleep?